Sunday 18 September 2016

How To Know If a Girl Likes You or not

She likes me…she likes me not….

Attention single guys! Are you looking for a girlfriend or a casual fling? Do you have a hard time getting the hint when a girl is trying to tell you – without actually telling you, of course – that she’s interested? Girls can be confusing, but if you pay close attention to the way they act, you can usually figure out whether or not they are interested in you. Keep reading for a helpful guide to understanding how a girl shows she’s interested.

Language/Speech

Let’s start with something easy: the way a woman speaks. If you’re trying to flirt with a girl, you definitely need to pay attention to what she’s saying and how she’s saying it. Every girl is different, but many girls are just as nervous as you are when flirting. Her voice can betray that nervousness – if she sounds anxious, it’s a sure sign she’s excited about what might happen!
flirt3If you’ve made the mistake of telling a stupid joke, don’t worry. If she laughs, you’re making progress with her! A woman interested in you will laugh and smile a lot while you’re speaking. However, try to center the conversation on her, not yourself. Girls like to talk about themselves and they like guys who listen. Ask short questions about her to get her talking.
If she turns the conversation to you, asks about your ex girlfriends, and compliments you a lot, you can be sure she’s interested. A woman who asks about your plans and hobbies is trying to find out if the two of you have anything in common. Finally, letting you know she’s single is a big sign your crush is looking for some romance.

Eye Contact

They say the eyes are the window to the soul, and it’s true when flirting. Dilated pupils are a huge sign that a female is sexually attracted to the man with whom she’s speaking. In addition, making eye contact with your crush makes you appear strong and confident – just makes sure not to stare (that’s creepy!).
FLIRT5If your crush won’t look you in the eye, it probably means she’s nervous and exited – in other words, she’s looking forward to what might happen with you. She might be looking at your eyes and then look away as soon as you make eye contact. A good sign she likes you is if she’s constantly looking at you when you’re busy with other tasks. Other girls will gaze directly into your eyes while speaking. If a girl gives you a curious, inquisitive look when you approach, it’s a surefire sign she’s not interested.

Body Language

Body language is perhaps the most important category. The way a woman sits, stands, and moves while you’re around can be the biggest giveaway to what she’s thinking. Next time you’re at the bar chatting with that cute girl you’ve seen a few times, look for these hints that she’s into you:
  • She leans in towards you
  • Her legs are not crossed
  • She smiles as soon as you start talking with her
  • She hugs you randomly
  • She “accidentally” bumps into you
  • She finds excuses to touch you
  • She turns her torso/hips towards you
  • She bites or touches her lips
  • She gets really dressed up when she knows she will see you and then acts surprised if you comment on her appearance.
  • She plays with her hair while talking with you

Other Behavior/Digital Flirting

If she’s with a group of friends, pay attention to them too. Sometimes a female will “test” a potential boyfriend by finding out if he gets along with her friends. Be polite and friendly, but do not flirt with her friends. If you notice her friends are looking at you and giggling, she has probably told them that she’s interested in you! If you approach a group of girls and the conversation very suddenly stops, your crush may have been talking about you.
If your crush says she’s cold, offer her your coat. This is a chivalrous action that she will appreciate. It also allows her to be closer to you. Likewise, if she’s trying to carry something heavy or looks like she needs help with a task, offer to help her out! Opening the door for her is a good idea too.
Did you know that girls also use social media and texting to flirt? Here are some ways that a woman will try to flirt with you digitally:
  • Sending you a link to a video or article you talked about once
  • Listening to bands you like in the hope that you’ll notice
  • Tagging you often in posts
  • Texting you something random just to start a conversation
  • Sending you lots of winky faces and smiley faces

Common Mistakes

flirt4Although this might not apply if you’ve just met, it’s important to know how your crush acts around other men. Confident girls will flirt with guys they have no intention of being romantic with. They will even flirt with their close guy friends. Girls like this are a little more difficult to read.
Have you ever played “hard to get” by flirting with multiple girls at once? This is a bad idea. If your crush sees you giving attention to another girl, she will quickly assume she has no chance, get jealous, think you’re a “player,” or just plain ignore you.
Chivalry is not dead, but it may be dying. Although I mentioned earlier that opening the door is a good idea, don’t do this type of thing constantly. Too much assistance can make her feel like she is being babied. It’s also important not to be overly romantic in the beginning; surprising her with roses on the second date isn’t sweet, it’s creepy.
Don’t over-analyze a woman’s behavior. Yes, there are subtle hints and signs, but don’t assume that every little thing means something! Did you assume her frown was because she didn’t like your joke? Maybe her stomach was hurting. Did she cancel a date? Maybe she had to take her dog to the vet. Guys tend to read into the little things too much. Remember to relax. Maintaining a relaxed, confident attitude is one of the best ways to attract a girl’s attention.

Conclusion

Next time you’re trying to figure out whether or not a woman is interested in you, make sure to pay attention to her eyes, what she says and how she says it, the way she moves, and the way she treats you via texting and social media. By following the above advice, you should have no trouble figure out if it’s time to take the plunge and ask her on a date.

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